My wife just asked me if I could recommend a good Raleigh chiropractor for her. I thought it was a weird question is I did not know that she had any neck or back issues. It turns out that she’s been in pain ever since her pregnancy, and she told me that she had told me about it, and was offended that I didn’t seem to know or recall her mentioning it… To me, this is a big deal, because I seriously do not recall her mentioning it at all. Needless to say, we had a little bit of an argument about this topic. These arguments prove to be quite pointless though, I’m starting to realize. It may be impossible to have a marriage without them, but it is also important to learn that sometimes there’s no way to “win” the argument because we have both perceived things so differently. I think that I listen to my wife all the time. I very rarely tune out when she is talking. I consider her words to be very valuable, and when she has a problem of any kind I do my very best to find Solutions or to solve it myself. She does the same for me.
That is why these arguments can be so frustrating. We both want the best for each other, and yet we can’t seem to agree on these things and since there is no barometer of who is right and who is wrong, we just end up fighting in circles about something that really maybe, at the end of the day, it’s actually not even worth fighting about. I know that it would be best if I would just agree that she was right, and she probably is, but in that moment for whatever reason, I can’t seem to admit that and I am so sure of myself that I continue to argue a pointless point of view. I love my wife comma and right now I’m going to find her the best chiropractor in the city. Tonight I’ll go to bed, and I apologize for being so stubborn. At the end of the day, it’s just not worth hanging on to that tension. I realized it’s my pride that’s preventing me from moving forward and in the end, love is worth sacrificing pride for.